Broken Relationship? Now What?
The breakup of any relationship can be heartbreaking for everyone involved. It can take a long time to get over it. Moving on can be hard at first. Many people who go through a breakup don’t even want to move on. It can be a long and complicated process to accept the loss of the relationship as well as the other person that was part of it. But we all have to start somewhere.
As soon as the words have come out of your mouth, you may deeply regret having done it. You’ve said it’s over. Hearing those words makes the situation so real. And then you see their face and their reaction says it all. The relationship has ended. All that’s left is for one of you to leave, and for you both to say goodbye.
Whether there are tears at that moment or not, there certainly will be soon. Crying is the big release we all need when a huge change like a breakup happens. There are many reasons for breaking up a relationship. That means your tears may be of sadness, or relief that it’s all over now. The crying period may take just a few minutes, or it may last for days. It is good for us to cry, so try not to rush things.
Crying releases hormones and chemical changes in the body and brain that help us to relax and feel better. It will help you to sleep better. Sleep is the best way to let the mind process the things that have happened. It helps you gain a better perspective of where you are right now. Emotionally, you may be fragile. But with a little rest, you’ll feel less raw in no time.
There is often more than one reason for a breakup. It won’t be down to just one thing. Instead, an accumulation of problems or incidents will add up to be the cause of you both going your separate ways. You may both come to realize that you want different things. Perhaps you just want things to be a different way and the other person isn’t able to offer that.
This time of year can be very tough to be single. Valentines is always such a romantic day. It’s difficult to spend it alone at any time, but immediately after a breakup can make it much tougher. However, it is at this time of year that you can think about how important romance and company is to you. Where are your priorities in a relationship?
Many of us miss the physical intimacy a relationship provides. We’re social creatures. Physical touch like cuddles, kisses, and hand holding are reassuring, comforting, and pleasant. Deeper relationships often provide other physical intimacies. They offer a far more intense bonding between you both. It’s easy to miss this too. But do you miss the intimacies or the person you’ve split from? It’s important to consider this carefully.
It is a good idea to identify exactly what you are missing from your relationship. You may be thinking about how to get your ex boyfriend back. If you feel your breakup was hasty and ill-thought out, then chances are you will have a chance to get back to him. If you are certain that a mistake has been made in splitting up, then working on your approach to making amends can be a good idea.
Of course, some relationships come to an end for good reason. When you realize you’re not meant to be, then it can be easier to make a clean break and move on. Moving on may be a long-winded process. Very few people can jump into another committed relationship within just a few days of a breakup. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the company of other people during this time.
Most people acknowledge that they need some time alone. This is important before getting involved in another relationship. During this period, it can be a good idea to spend some quality time getting to know yourself again. Relationships provide us with a many great pleasures. But they all require sacrifices. You may have seen less of your friends, or even given up hobbies and interests to make time for your partner. This in itself can be a reason for a breakup. So get back into your favorite activities, and meet up with your mates.
What have you really missed while you’ve been in your relationship? And what dreams, aspirations and goals did you put on hold while you pursued your relationship? These are the things to address now. Many people throw themselves into exercise programs or an extensive social life. This can be a good thing while you are dipping your toe into life as a single person again.
Living arrangements can be quite tricky to sort out when a relationship breaks down. If you lived together, one of you would have to move out. Finding somewhere new to live needs to be a priority so you can get your life back in order. Choose something cheap and cheerful, and move everything out as quickly as you can. This saves you from a prolonged goodbye with the person you are splitting from. And it helps you get back your own life as quickly as possible.
Life is also more expensive when you are single. Why not try and get a roommate to help share the bills? And heading back home to your parents shouldn’t be something you are ashamed to do, but rather something you are strong enough to face. They will help take the pressure off financially, as well as domestically. This gives you the time and support you need to get back on your feet.
It’s important not to seek a substitute when you have decided to end a relationship. Instead, seek enrichment in your life. If they ended things, it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself. Thoughts that you weren’t good enough in some way do you no favors. Instead, accept this wasn’t the right relationship for either of you. True love will arrive when the time is right for you to be just you.